So
grateful that I am here and out of Havana.
On a morning stroll I hear drums and run into an Orisha performance at
the park. By 10 am I have had a morning
groove and have scheduled my first drum class here with the lead drummer from
the ensemble. By 1 pm I have scheduled a
second class for tomorrow with the famous congero Alberto Pablo, a 78 year old
legend, if only in his own mind, here who plays a few solo drum grooves that
honestly don’t blow me away for someone who is “famous,” but I know it’s only a
demonstration and not a true sign of his playing ability or knowledge.
I
schedule a singing class with a handsome musician who buys me a beer and dances
salsa with me at a restaurant where he and I sat enjoying good
conversation. I can feel my body is
tired and I know I have a drum class and a meeting to make before 6 pm still
and I finally feel like I’m actually doing the work I came to Cuba to do and
enjoying every minute of it.
My newest suitor arrives exactly on time for our first “date,” and I take note of how nice that
is. Sander is a rare gem of a man. Tender, sweet, caring, sensitive and all mine
if I want him. We walk the streets of
Trinidad and he shows me the galleries where his art is displayed. He is an incredible artist, truly talented
and I am in awe of his paintings.
He
introduces me to his best friends, and family as his “novia.” Everyone makes a
point of telling me that he is a “Muy bueno hombre,” and I know they aren’t
lying. Things move quick here in Cuba
apparently. Less than 24 hours and he is
thinking we are a couple. I question him
about this and let him know it makes me a little uncomfortable, “This is how we
do in Cuba. Little boys and girls even
10 years old holding hands, novia and novio it’s normal here.”
He
sits through my entire drum class watching and listening and I know he’s
falling in love quick and I feel my own energy pulling back a little to
resist. I am tired, thirsty and hungry
and I think we are going to his house for dinner and that it’s close by, maybe
a few minutes walk. I find myself in a
taxi driving out of town farther and farther and I start to worry.
Of
course, I am expected to pay for the taxi, 3 CUC and of course then I will have
to pay 3 more to get home and I find myself mildy irritated by the whole
thing. I try not to let it show, but I
do comment on it and remind him he should have let me know the situation before
putting me in the taxi.
“This
is my house,” he says proudly, “it’s a modest house.” It’s the least house looking house on the
whole block, looking more like a shed than a house. The concrete walls are covered by a tin roof
and it is dark and almost scary, but I know he is safe and pure of heart, so I
enter expecting more or less what it was.
The lights in the living room aren’t working, so his mother is in the
kitchen working. The place isn’t dirty,
it’s just old and in need of repair.
The
concrete walls are all peeled and cracked, there are no water fixtures on any
of the sinks, nor is there a visible shower in the bathroom of any kind. I wonder where they shower, but I don’t ask,
or even where they wash their hands. I
pray I don’t get sick eating here, but let go and trust that I will be OK. He is so proud of his house and I want to do
nothing to hurt this sweet precious pure and innocent heart that he shows me.
He
is so sweet, so loving, so kind I can barely believe it. “Come,” he says, “I want to show you
something. He pulls a piece of art off
the wall and shows it to me. We have to go into the bedroom to look at it
because the living room is too dark. It’s
beautiful, a scene like a dream opening up into a rich deep jungle with a
waterfall and a vision of majic. “It’s
like a dream,” I say to him. “You,” he
says, “are the first person who has ever seen that. That’s what the floating bubbles represent is
the dream. It’s my symbol in my paintings.”
I am touched deeply and wish I wasn’t so cranky from not eating or
drinking all day and being exhausted.
His
mother serves me a huge plate of black beans with white rice, a plate of
tomatoes and some delicious fried sweet potatoes. It is delicious, I am starving and grateful
to eat. Instantly I feel better just
sitting down and grounding.
After
dinner we dance in the tiny living room to music played thru the TV. The rocking chairs are obstacles that have to
be moved, but we manage to get sweaty dancing salsa in a 4x4 space. He is an incredible dancer, very suave and
perfect in every way with timing. For
half an hour I am swirled, twirled and tossed thru the living room. I am so tired but so happy to be
dancing. His mother sits in the rocking
chair and watches us. I am touched by
the sweetness of this humble scene.
I
can’t help but think of what will be lost in this culture when computers take
hold of households. I wonder what in the
hell they do on a normal night when there isn’t a guest to entertain. There’s no TV, no computer, barely any light
and no food in the refigerator to munch on when they get bored. Sitting there talking is all there is,
finding a neighbor to distract you from a family member perhaps to take the
edge off when you get sick of each other is possibly an option.
He
professes his devotion to me. “When I am
with you, I want you to know you are safe.
I want you to feel like you are with me, that’s why I took you today to
meet my most intimate friends and family.
I want you to feel like we are a couple.” He leans forward to kiss me, and while part
of me wants to surrender, another part is resistant and feeling really
uncomfortable.
He
is incredibly beautiful, sexy and so sweet and kind, but my heart is broken
again and I don’t want another man yet.
I know he would never hurt me in any way, but it’s too much too fast and
I just want to go home and be alone again.
He
walks me to the taxi and I close my eyes as the taxi takes me back to my
casa. I go to bed after a hot shower,
exhausted and touched by a tender night.